How do you meet new people? I have recently moved to Texas. I have found the people to be very welcoming, but I am not sure how to take the smiles that I have received and welcoming words and transform them into friendships. Any advice would be appreciated.
Dear Newcomer,
I think you are beginning in a very positive way. You have recognized that others are very welcoming. This says to me that you are looking for the best. When you are positive like this and look for the best of everyone, things go so much smoother. I understand that moving into a new place can be daunting. The experience can be so much smoother with a few friends under your belt.
So first, may I say “Welcome”. We are glad you’re here.
Do you have children? Often the school systems or even the parks are a good way to meet others that share some of your experiences. Do you have animals? I know dogs are a more social animal than possibly cats, but animals are a great way to connect. Whether it be, again, in the park or even at the pet supply stores.
Do you have a church you belong to or are interested in? Churches often have great welcoming groups. Many in the area offer small groups that meet on other days besides the day they worship for the members to get to know each other better and forge friendships.
What do you like to do? Look online for any meetup groups on your favorite topics. I have never experienced these groups, but I have heard of people enjoying them. As always, check out everything before you attend. I realize that sounds a lot like fear coming out of Aunt B’s mouth, and I’m not sure why. I think I have just recently heard of so many scams that I just want us all to be cautious. I know that is not my style, and I don’t even like that I am going there. Let’s back up. The majority of people are beautiful, kind, lovely people. Those are the ones I choose to spend time with and allow into my life. Those are the ones I wish for you as well.
If you live in a neighborhood, check to see if there are any neighborhood groups. You can even be the one that starts the interaction. You might invite neighbors over for coffee or a little happy hour. I love a good happy hour. You would probably be surprised that others are feeling lonely too. In this scattered world we live in with so many people moving around, it can often be difficult to find your tribe. Don’t despair, your tribe is out there.
Remember, building friendships takes time, so be patient with yourself. Keep your spirits up, keep reaching out, and before you know it, you’ll have a new circle of friends who might just feel like family. Good luck in your new adventure!
Love,
Aunt B
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