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Ok it’s over. I want to be filled with positivity and thankfulness. Don’t get me wrong, I kinda am, but there is almost dread for what is ahead of me. I want so much more this year. Also, I can’t help it. I am focusing a little on what didn’t go great over the holidays. Now that we are here. Where do we start?

Dear Just point me in the right direction, Ok, that is an easy one.

The right direction is hope and positivity. There you go, have a good new year. Much love, Aunt B Just kidding, I am guessing you wanted a little more than that. You have to admit, that was a good one. You know, it really is that simple. I promise you did better last year than you think. We all did. It is that negative bias that we speak of all the time. It is easier to remember the negative than the positive. Let’s start there. Let’s make this year a year we remember the positive more than the negative. It won’t come naturally so we will need to put habits in place to make this work.

This is one thing I am thinking of. I may have already told you guys about this. When I start to think of anything negative, I am going to challenge myself to think one step better. It may not be the most positive thought ever, but I will elevate the thought at least a little.

I am also going to keep a list that I add to every night. I will keep this right with my toothbrush because I have already built the habit of brushing my teeth. I never miss brushing my teeth, so I will have a little notebook right there and I will write the best thing that happened that day in my notebook. I don’t need to write much, just something to remember that there is good.

I probably have stated this as well. I don’t and never will watch the news. But if you have some positive news or loving news, feel free to share with me every day, all day long. That is where I choose to put my energy. Some people will never believe this, but that is ok. There is much more good going on in this world than bad. I know this in my bones. Don’t waste time arguing with me; it won’t work. I will still love you; I just won’t believe you. Promise me you will look for the good. The more you look for anything, the more you will find what you are looking for.

Don’t beat yourself up for thinking about what went wrong over the holidays. It is ok; just try to do a bit better. We all have very high expectations, and that is ok. When you find yourself spending too much time thinking of the missed moments or wrong turns, just stop, give yourself a little love, and go for some gold. If you can’t find any, take a nap or go to sleep and try again tomorrow. We all hopefully have another day to do better. It will all work, and we will all make it. Think love thoughts, my children.

Love, Aunt B

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