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B Dear Aunt B, How do I reach out to people that I have lost contact with? There have been people in my past that I have lost touch with, and I miss them. Do you have any good advice?

Lost Friend

Dear Lost Friend, I sure hope I have good advice, but I will let you be the judge of that. Always run Aunt B’s advice by your own gut feeling. No one knows what is right for you better than you. If something feels wrong, that usually means it is. So, as my new saying of this year goes, “you do you”. Here is my 2 cents worth of advice. “My 2 cents worth” is a very old saying; I am feeling old just saying it.

When looking for someone, I always start with google. I start with google for anything I am looking for. Starting with google can take you down a rabbit hole as well. There is another old saying “rabbit hole”. Boy, am I on a roll. Dang, I think that is another old saying. Back to the question. Focus, Aunt B, focus.

Facebook is another option to search for your lost friend. The really interesting thing about this search is there are many people out there with the same name. It always shocks me. You can look at pictures, if there is one, to try to find your person. If there is no picture, sometimes there is some available information even if they are not your friend. Sometimes not.

Another option is to reach out to another person that was in your life at the same time. Check to see if they have any information on how to find your friend.

If you have their personal information and the reason you haven’t connected is another reason, reach out to them. A simple text might be the quickest and simplest. “Just thinking of you” or “missing our friendship” is enough said. If there was a falling out, I wouldn’t address it at the beginning. Focus on the reasons you miss this person. You can include the reasons or save them for later when you have a more personal visit. Letting go of anger (if there is any) is always a good thing. Spending more time in love and connection always serves us well. Understand that people are all on their own paths. If this person doesn’t wish to connect, let it go. You never know, they might come back to you at a later date. If they don’t, their loss.

Ok, this next idea might be a little weird but here goes. Think about this person. Remember all the good times you had. Have you ever noticed that when you think of something it starts to show up everywhere? Try it. Start thinking about yellow cars, and watch how many you start to see. Weird, yes, but why not try it?

Good luck finding your long-lost friend. I always love seeing old friends. It is really special when you pick up right where you left off in your friendship. If that doesn’t happen, don’t fret. There are many, many people out there just wanting to be your new friend.

Love, Aunt B

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