B Dear Aunt B, Ok, I know you said not to worry that the first of the year is past and I haven’t started on my stuff yet, but how do I figure out what to start on first and where to begin? I’m sure you are tired of talking about the new year, but I need some assistance. I don’t want December 31st to come again and to feel the same way I do every year.
Really Want Changes Dear Really Want Changes, Never can too much be said about starting new. What does that say about us? Does it mean we are never satisfied? ABSOLUTELY, and that is a good thing. Well, kinda. I want us to never be finished, always satisfied. It really is a big difference. Now before you start on me, there is a big possibility that we have different definitions for satisfied, so hear me out.
I will always want more and my hope for you is that you will too. I have joked in the past that I want it all. It really is not a joke when I say it; I do want it all. Again, we could be talking semantics.
So what do you want? You can say you want it all too, but get clear about what it all is to you. Start making a list. Write down everything on that list, everything your little heart desires. Remember you are a grown one. You will not hide in a closet and suck your thumb if you identify something and you don’t achieve it. You will deal with that if it happens. However, you will not get most of the things you want that you don’t even know you want.
Once you know where you are heading, you can lay out a map. Don’t start too quickly on laying out your map. Really spend good quality time on your list. Write everything you can think you might want. As you are making this list, I want you to start another list on a different page. Even better in a different notebook. Keep these two lists separate. As you are writing and discovering your deepest wishes you will notice that your brain starts to talk back at you. At least my mind does. This is the part of our mind that I always say is not your friend. It will begin softly at first to tell you why you can’t have certain things. If it doesn’t scare you quickly enough it will get louder. DO NOT ARGUE WITH IT. Just get out your other notebook and write down what it is telling you. Sounds silly but just say, “Thanks for sharing.” Remember don’t argue or let this stop you. This is fabulous information, crucial information. Your mind is handing you all your limiting beliefs. These are good to know. You can’t repair and change anything that you are unaware exists. These are not absolute truths; they are just limiting beliefs. These are the statements that your mind feeds you on a regular basis that stop you from moving forward. Often, these were handed down to you by others. Once we have these limiting beliefs, we have gold to work with.
Spend your week on this fabulous work. Next week we’ll take it deeper.
Love, Aunt B
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