Ask Aunt B

Dear Aunt B,

How do I start completely over? My life has completely changed and I am afraid. What should I do?

Scared

Dear Scared,

BREATHE AND TAKE ONE STEP TOWARD WHAT YOU WANT, REPEAT. To be continued………………..

Love, Aunt B

I really wanted to stop there to make a point of how important that first step is but I couldn’t help myself. Whenever you get overwhelmed, reread the main answer above.

It seems that I continue to say the very same thing. If you notice that, I’m sorry(not sorry) but it is a very important same thing.

Get clear on what you want your life to look like.

Close to impossible to get somewhere you want when you don’t know what you want. Get clear. I promise it will serve you well. This is may be the most difficult step. For some reason it is very uncomfortable to sit still and dream. I’m not sure if it is a worthy issue or what but it doesn’t really matter. Just do it. Remember this is not a one and done thing. Spend some real time in this activity. Oh something I may have not said before, get in a good place before you start dreaming. I don’t mean space. It always helps to be in a space that is pleasing to you, so do that also if you can. What I mean by place is mindframe. This is not an activity that you do when you are stuck in fear. Get yourself in the highest state of mind you are capable of. Imagine that Aunt B is sitting right by your side (if that is pleasing to you) and reminding you that you are safe and able to create a good life. Get in a place that feels as good as possible. Impossible to be in a state of survival and creation at the same time.

Make space for what you want to come into your life.

Clear out the clutter in your life, both physical and mental clutter.

Forgive all the players most importantly yourself. So sorry, another very difficult but necessary component. Stay tuned, I will be writing more on forgiveness later.

Acknowledge and accept responsibility for your part.

Blame no one, especially yourself. Blame and responsibility are two different things. Recognize the difference. Again, more to come later.

Spend as little time as possible telling the story of how bad it is and how difficult the new journey is. Telling old stories just keeps us stuck in the old story. Remember you want new things. Focus all of your attention on the new life you are stepping into.

This is a fun time in your life. Enjoy the journey.

Love,

Aunt B

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