Ask Aunt B

Dear Aunt B,

I feel all we have talked about is the holidays and I am not even fond of the holidays. Now they are over, I’m not that happy either. Is it normal to feel let down after the holidays even if you don’t celebrate the holidays?

Does nothing make me happy?

Dear Does nothing make me happy?,

I think most everything is normal. I understand your issue because I, like you, don’t ever feel very festive throughout the holidays. I am always ready for the new start that the new year brings. However, it feels like a very odd time of year to me. I am usually a little disappointed in myself at the end of the year. I realize, I tell you guys not to be disappointed and just start anew. Remember do what I say, not what I do.

So let us just start where we are. Trying to figure it out just wastes time. I doubt that there is much figuring things out on this topic. Just acknowledge that you are feeling off. Now what?

Start here:

I feel: _________________ _______________________ _______________________ _____.

I want to feel: __________ _______________________ _______________________ _____.

The differences in how I feel and how I want to feel are: _______________________ _______________________ _______________________ _______________________ _______________________ _______________________ _______________________ _______________________ _______________________ _______________________ _______________________ _______________________ ________________

In order to feel my desired feeling, I am willing to: _______________________ _______________________ _______________________ _______________________ _______________________ _______________________ _______________________ _______________________ _______________________ _______________________ _______________________ ________________.

I need to meet these people: ___________________ _______________________ ________.

I need to learn these skills: _______________________ _______________________ _____.

I need to change these behaviors ________________ _______________________ _______.

I need _________________ _______________________ _______________________ _______________________ _______________________ _______________________ _______________________ _______________________ _______________________ _______________.

I will know I am on the right track when: _______ _______________________ _______________________ _______________________ _______________________ _________________.

Feelings are fickle and fleeting, so don’t take all this too seriously. Just start anew and pay attention.

I know I have said this for sooooo long. Do those things that make you feel good.

Love,

Aunt B

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