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Dear Aunt B Readers,

Happy Happy New Year, We made it through 2021. Congratulations.

Did you have a good holiday season? Spend a little time thinking about how it all went down. Just recall your favorite parts and decide to do more of those. Did you connect with family and friends? Do you want to bring more of that into your non holiday time? Did you meet new people that interested you? Did you spend some time with people that their time in your life has run its course? All good information.

2021 was a great year for some and not so much for others. Now is a great time to reset, either way. What did you learn this year? Don’t spend any time beating yourself up for last year and your mistakes or lack of accomplishments. Remember, “YOU CAN NOT BEAT YOURSELF BETTER.” Only way to do better is to decide what better is, set a plan for better, and then proceed along with your plan. How will you make 2022 a better year?

Decide today to do more of what you enjoy. Do more of what lights your fire. Be more selfish. Only when you are lit up can you really expand another’s life anyway. So what feels like selfish behavior is, in fact, behavior that increases your experiences and experiences of those around you because it prepares you to be better. You know what I am talking about? I’m not talking about doing things that hurt others to just get what you want. I am talking about taking care of yourself. Doing more of the things that refuel you. I am talking about self care, laughter, fun things and just overall paying attention to when you feel good and doing more of that. Suffering through life helps no one. Step into your true self by spending more time in love, in love with yourself and in love with others. Time has come to rethink old thinking patterns. One old thinking pattern is that in order for me to win someone else must lose. Just not true. Win win situations are situations that are good for all concerned. Time to change limiting beliefs. I know, Aunt B thinks it is always time to change limiting beliefs. One of my favorite things is identifying and changing limited beliefs. Who wants to be limited anyway? Not me and I know you don’t. You are way over that limiting stuff, right?

I think I am all over the board in my writing today. I just want to make it clear that we are responsible for our lives. If you want more in your life, you can have it. You just need to take charge and responsibility. Don’t be bogged down with old patterns and beliefs.

Let us start anew and start strong and set our intention to have a great year.

Love, Aunt B

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