Dear Aunt B Readers,
So here we are on Week 3, our final week, of becoming the person you want to be. Let’s recap. Week 1, we talked about Gratitude. If you haven’t started a gratitude practice, now is a great time. Gratitude is the biggest and best way to change our lives. Week 2 was about absolute clarity. Remember you can’t get anywhere when you don’t know where you are going. Well let’s say you can’t get where you want to go, when you don’t know where you want to be. You will end up somewhere but not where you want. So the more clarity you can get on what you want the better.
So the final key in this 3 week journey is personal responsibility. You are hands down totally responsible for your life. We might be tempted to look at others for excuses about why we aren’t where we want to be, but it is a trap. Think about it, what power do you have if the responsibility lies in another’s hand?
If you are not where or what you want to be, look no further. You have found the person responsible. Personal responsibility is about managing your own self. Yes, it is difficult to say the least, but so rewarding. How can I be responsible for all that happens in my life? I mean stuff happens, right? Of course stuff happens. Our reactions and our actions are all ours.
What does personal responsibility look like?
Taking control of your life.
Being honest about your situations and life.
Holding yourself accountable.
Being diligent about making the changes you desire.
Working on your resilience, ability to handle the stress of your life.
Being open to change and exploring ways to make that change.
(Just a beginning but a good place to start.)
Personal responsibility is not about blame. According to Webster’s dictionary, blaming is assigning responsibility for a fault or wrong.
As human beings we always want to be right. Blaming others can preserve our own self-esteem, allowing us to avoid looking at the role we played in the situation. Initially we need to look at the situation and decide what caused each issue. This introspection helps us find the best way to solve any problem. Blaming others can help to preserve our own self-esteem, allowing us to avoid looking at the role we played in the situation.
The problem with blame, no matter who or what we are blaming, is that it stops the process of moving forward. So yes assign responsibility and then work to forgive yourself and others. Forgiveness can free you to move on. Not easy but necessary.
So, to recap, to become more or what you desire: practice gratitude for who and what you are; get absolute clarity of who and what you are and what you want; and take personal responsibility for your life and your actions. Good luck, my friends,
Good luck, my friends,
Love, Aunt B
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